Last night I went into the kitchen to fix myself a bowl of ice cream. It had been one of those days. I just wanted to dip my ice cream, sit in my chair, and watch YouTube videos reminding of the wardrobe I wish I had. But the wife in my said, “Ask him is he wants some.” The laziness inside of me had no interest in dipping more than one serving. But I allowed the wife in me to prevail and asked my darling husband, who I’m pretty sure had a harder day than I, if he wanted a bowl of ice cream. He did.
Marriage is a lot like dipping that second bowl of ice cream. No matter what type of day you’ve had, it’s choosing kindness towards your spouse. It’s about being aware of their thoughts and feelings, and taking those into consideration in you day to day activities. It’s being selfless in those moments where you really want to be selfish.
I’ve only been married for 2 and a half years, and for some people that seems really short. But for my husband and I, it has been the best years of our lives. There is this feeling you get when you know that the person laying next to you in bed, is choosing you everyday, just as you are choosing them.
My older brother asked me a profound question when I told him I was thinking about getting married. It was along the lines of ,”A lot of people get married based on feelings and emotions that are temporary. You have to ask yourself, ‘If he gets into a car accident, and looses all his limbs, would you take care of him? More importantly, would he take care of you?'”
There are good days. There are difficult days. And then there are days where you just can’t bother. And that’s okay. As long as you both decide the next morning, I choose you.